45. Serenity: The Eventual Goal

Serenity defined:
n 1: a disposition free from stress or emotion [syn: repose, quiet, placidity, tranquillity, tranquility] 2: the absence of mental stress or anxiety [syn: peace, peacefulness, peace of mind, repose, heartsease, ataraxis] WordNet ® 2.0, © 2003 Princeton University

I guess the only question is: does serenity mean doing nothing? And the answer is no. One can be active, indeed very active, while being serene. A football quarterback would be an excellent example. There he is, analyzing, making (hopefully) accurate decisions, acting quickly and absorbing the results. But he is not fretful, striving or anxious.

Here you have your life, the overall plan is in place (whether you know it or not) and you are reacting to it. Is it fair to say that being serene maximizes your chances of achieving your goals? I think it is obvious that serenity produces results. In fact, one quickly learns to expect results, good results, sometimes wonderful results. I think of Mother Teresa and her stupendous success and all the time she was relaxed and tranquil (and sometimes, very funny).

How does one achieve serenity? You start by noticing, clearly and honestly, what is happening. Emphasizing what is. The bad stuff constantly (sometimes painfully) steers you toward the good stuff which you simply enjoy the hell out of. Serenity does not mean emotionless indifference. And, you appreciate all of it.

Appreciating something, like money, makes it grow. Appreciating love and friendliness just makes them grow. So, one does not appreciate, except in passing, the bad stuff. One learns from it and moves on.